Said yes yesterday?

There is something extra magical about a Valentine’s engagement. Maybe it happened over dinner, maybe during a walk, maybe one of you was so nervous you can’t remember a word you said. However it unfolded, you now have a story you’ll be telling for the rest of your lives.

As a wedding celebrant, I get to meet couples right at this glowing, giddy stage. You’re excited, you’ve probably already had seventeen messages from friends asking about dates, and somewhere in the back of your mind a tiny voice is whispering: we should probably start planning…

Take a breath. You don’t need to do everything this week.

But there are a few early conversations that will make the rest of your planning smoother, more joyful, and much more you.

Start with the marriage, not the party

I love a great dance floor as much as anyone, but your wedding day is about the commitment you’re making to each other.

When couples come to me after getting engaged, one of the first things I ask is: how do you want your ceremony to feel?

Romantic and elegant?

Relaxed and full of laughter?

Short and sweet?

Big on storytelling?

There’s no right answer, but talking about this early helps shape everything that follows, from the venue to the time of day to the music you’ll choose to walk down the aisle.

Dream a little about place

Some pairs already know they want a grand country estate like Braxted Park. Others are picturing a beach, a woodland, or the back garden where everyone can kick off their shoes.

You don’t have to book tomorrow, but it helps to start imagining what backdrop fits the two of you. Your venue will influence your budget, guest list size, décor, and sometimes even what is legally possible for your ceremony.

Rough numbers = calm minds

I promise this is the least romantic bit, but it’s also the one that prevents the most stress later.

Have an honest chat about:

• what you might be able to spend

• whether anyone is contributing

• what matters most to you

For some couples it’s incredible food. For others it’s photography, music, or an unforgettable ceremony. Knowing your priorities makes every decision easier.

Your guest list sets the tone

Before you fall in love with an intimate barn, it’s worth checking whether you’re imagining 30 guests or 130.

You don’t need names yet, just a ballpark figure. Big difference.

Book the people who book up fast

Celebrants, photographers, and popular venues can be reserved well over a year in advance, especially around peak seasons and romantic dates.

If having someone who really gets you is important, start researching sooner rather than later.

Most important of all: stay connected

In the swirl of Pinterest boards and family opinions, remember the two of you are the heart of this. Keep checking in. Keep making choices that feel right.

Your wedding isn’t a performance – it’s the start of your marriage.

And from where I stand at the front, that’s always the most beautiful part.

If you want guidance, reassurance, or simply someone to help turn your love story into a ceremony that feels utterly personal, a celebrant will be delighted to walk that journey with you.

Congratulations, you lovely humans – the adventure has officially begun ✨